I Like Him Because He Makes Me Laugh
Tom and Olivia were sitting in a café on their first date. Olivia asked, “What’s important to you in a relationship?”
“I’m pretty firm on what I believe is important in a relationship,” Tom replied. “But like Groucho Marx said, “these are my principles, and if you don’t like them…well, I have others.”
Olivia laughed.
Then she asked, “You’re a good guy. Why are you divorced?”
Tom replied, “Why? Because my wife didn’t appreciate me.”
Olivia laughed.
“How didn’t she appreciate you?”
“Olivia, I’m like Rodney Dangerfield. His wife wanted to have sex in the back seat of their car. So did mine.”
“So, what’s wrong with that?” Olivia asked.
“His wife wanted him to drive. So did mine.”
Olivia kept laughing.
When Olivia got home, her roommate asked, “How was the date?”
“I like him. He makes me laugh.”
Women are attracted to men who make them laugh. A study by Jeffrey Hall of the University of Kansas, found that when a woman meets a man who makes her laugh, she is more likely to be interested in dating him. The study showed that the more she laughs at his jokes, the more likely she is interested.
In a survey of more than a thousand American women aged 21 to 54 on what traits were important in a man, Men’s Health Magazine found 77 per cent of the women put a sense of humor first—higher than intelligence, passion, confidence and generosity.
Why are women attracted to men who make them laugh?
Laughing makes a person feel good. A woman will often associate those good feelings with the man who made her laugh. She may also feel that it shows he is creative and fun to be with. When they both laugh at the same things, she may feel it’s a sign they see things the same way.
Poet Maya Angelou said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Make her laugh and she won’t forget that good feeling.
People often feel more comfortable with someone who makes them laugh. That is why some speakers will start their speeches with a joke. It warms up the audience to have positive feelings about them and makes them more receptive to what they have to say.
“It’s hard to describe why I feel so attracted to a man who makes me laugh,” Melissa said. “I just feel more comfortable with him. I can’t explain what it is.”
There is research that explains why. A study published in 2017 in The Journal of Neuroscience said that laughter triggers the release of endorphins—the “feel good hormones”—in the parts of the brain that are responsible for arousal and emotions.
You don’t have to be a comedian to make her laugh.
What makes something funny? When the story you’re telling has a surprise ending and it’s not the ending the person listening to the story expected.
Watch how professional comedians do it. There are many videos on the Internet where comedians tell stories. Watch how a surprise ending makes people laugh. You can also look up jokes on the Internet to get ideas.
Tell her a funny story about your life. A self-deprecating story can be funny and charming, but don’t ever say something that may hurt her feelings. She’s unlikely to find that funny.
People on a date often share stories about themselves to give the other person an idea of who they are. To make her laugh, include a story about funny things that happened in your life.
On their next date, Olivia asked Tom, “Have you read any interesting books lately?”
“I just read a book about a very successful businessman. I found it interesting because I have a lot in common with him.”
Olivia smiled. “How?”
Tom continued, “He grew up in a small town…like I did. He moved to a big city to seek opportunity… like I did. And…he became a billionaire.”
Olivia started to laugh. Tom wasn’t a billionaire.
Then he said, “Well…I guess that’s where the similarities end.”
Olivia laughed even more.
Try to inject laughter into your relationship often. When you hear a funny story, share it with her. When something funny happens at work, tell her about it. Take her to see funny movies and comedians. Show her funny episodes on the Internet. Let her associate those good feelings that come with laughing with being with you.
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